Saturday, January 30, 2010
On Arranged Marriage
I have been reading a lot of posts against "arranged marriages" and many of them rightly so. However, there is another kind of arranged marriage,
which is arranged only in the sense that instead of meeting a potential mate by chance, the couple is introduced by design,like we were.
The choice of marrying or not is then in the hands of the couple in question.
In such a situation, the scales are not loaded against the woman, because she also has a choice. The choice to marry a certain kind of person, just like she would in a so called "love" marriage, where she had met someone by chance.And should she have an idea about the kind of person she wants to marry,like I did, then this is a good way of going about it.
In any marriage, happiness depends on a lot of factors ,some of which are beyond anyone's control.So how can anyone claim that a "love" marriage is the only kind of marriage that has any chance of being a happy one.
I feel that the success of a marriage has more to do with whether the people in question are reasonable adults than the manner in which they first met.So ,I guess I am just asking that we stop to think before we condemn ALL arranged marriages. At the very least, lets stop confusing arranged marriages with forced marriages.
Should you chose to comment, please keep the following in mind-
As in all of my posts, this is MY view point,based on MY experience.Your experience and reasonable comments about this subject are welcome.